Play with Personality Podcast

Stop Working on Areas of Life

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Written by Diana Dentinger

Imagine navigating life as if you were at a party, surrounded by a collection of balloons. Each balloon represents a different area of your life – work, relationships, health, and so on. Some balloons are vibrant and full, floating high with satisfaction, while others might be less inflated, hovering lower, reflecting areas of our lives that don’t feel as fulfilling.

Let’s focus on the work balloon for a moment. Suppose it’s only 50% inflated because you’re only halfway satisfied with your job. It’s natural to think that directly addressing your work-related issues – perhaps by seeking promotions, changing roles, or even companies – would fill up this balloon, making it rise higher.

But here’s the catch: attempting to inflate this work balloon directly is akin to blowing air into it with small, exhausting breaths. You’re looking for tricks and shortcuts to puff it up to 60%, but the effort is substantial, and the results, while noticeable, aren’t transformative.
The metaphor extends to a more profound, often overlooked insight: You, the individual at the center of these balloons, are the primary balloon.

When you’re not fully inflated – not completely satisfied with who you are – your efforts to fill the other balloons are inevitably constrained. However, when you focus on inflating this central balloon – enhancing your self-awareness, understanding your talents and traits, and embracing personal growth – you become more satisfied with yourself.

This satisfaction doesn’t just inflate the primary balloon; it naturally extends to inflate the others, including your work balloon. This concept underscores why addressing dissatisfaction in any area of life by working directly on it can be an uphill battle.

It’s attempting to solve a problem at the same level it exists, without addressing the foundational issue: your relationship with yourself.

When you’re 90% or more satisfied with who you are, extending that satisfaction to improve your job fulfillment becomes far less about finding tricks to make work better and more about letting your overall contentment uplift every aspect of your life.

Personal growth is indeed an inner game. It starts with filling up yourself, knowing yourself deeply, and leveraging your unique set of talents and traits. By focusing on this self-awareness and personal satisfaction, you create a ripple effect.

The more inflated your primary balloon becomes, the more it lifts all the other balloons, making the overall landscape of your life more vibrant and fulfilling.

In summary, the journey to enhancing satisfaction in any area of life begins not with direct efforts in that specific domain but with a focus on personal growth and self-awareness. By knowing yourself and becoming more content with who you are, you naturally elevate every aspect of your life, making each balloon rise higher with less effort.

The key to a fulfilling life, then, is less about working on the balloons around you and more about filling up the primary balloon – you.

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About the author

Diana Dentinger

American from the Midwest, living since 1984 in Europe, raising my 4 (now young adult) kids in Italy. With my nerdy neuroscience background, I love creating content to up level the self help industry as well as writing books to expand consciousness on the planet. My claim to fame is the Personality & Needs Profile® that helps people play with their personality to become the best versions of who they are!

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